A Decade of Marriage

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This week marked an important date in my life…

My husband and I celebrated

our tenth anniversary!

Ten years people, thats worth celebrating whether we feel like we accomplished anything significant or not!!

We have had 3 babies, moved nine times, bought three homes, owned a ridiculous amount of old cars, started new jobs, made dinner together thousands of times, had some blowout fights (just a couple!), apologized a million times to each other, held each other through some horrific things, laughed till we cried, tried to raise three awesome kids together and created tons of amazing memories together.

I am sure people who have been married longer will read this and think – these young whipper snappers have no idea about marriage, ten years is nothing!  Well these young’uns think ten years is almost a lifetime.  Standing before one another as babies, 21 year old kids, pledging our life to one another, we had no idea what the future would hold.  We couldn’t even really grasp how we would have to rely on one another through the hard times, or what it even meant to love one another with selfless love.

Life was a lot easier then, when your rose colored glasses are permanently on and life’s biggest stress is grocery shopping together.  (Because when your first married – you totally do this- like for fun)  As we added kids, and moving, and extended families, and plain old stress,  life became a little harder and a little less rose colored.

No matter what life threw at us, we have both continually fought to see the good in our lives.  We have learned that laughter is an effective and cheap therapy.  We aren’t the same people that we were ten years ago, I have changed and I have watched my husband change.  Its so important to me that we have continued to love each other as we grow and develop into the people that God has created us to be.  Its been amazing watching my husband realize who He is and what God has called Him to do.  I am equally blessed that he is continually pushing me to see myself how God sees me, and nothing less.  We learned early on that we weren’t gonna live up to the perfect wife or husband roles; and we were going to have to figure out how to love each other for the messed up and imperfect people we are.

I secretly love to watch couples who have been married for a long time.  I love to see how they interact with each other, how they talk to each other, really how they just show love to each other.  I have realized I admire when couples are in sync.  How they both work to understand how the other is feeling and what they need even if they can’t find the words to express it.  Encouraging each other in their dreams and pushing them to reach for them.  We are constantly working at this, becoming more in sync with one another.  I have a feeling its not something that happens over night or even in just ten years!

Who knows what the next ten years will bring?  More kids? (to be decided)  Traveling?  New Jobs?  Trials?  Joys?

Whatever it is, all I know is that I wouldn’t want to be on this journey with anyone else.

us

Walking step by step,

in sync with one another.

 

Comments

  1. Such a sweet post! Happy 10!

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